HILARY JACOBS HENDEL
At what point in your life did you consider yourself a feminist? Was it an event or a process?
In 1982 I took a class at Wesleyan University called Contemporary Psychoanalysis. It was a misnomer. The class was taught by a radical feminist named Bob Steele and the class was on feminism. My eyes were opened from then on. From that experience, I truly learned to think.
Who most influenced your awareness of your feminism?
Bob Steele, teacher mentioned above.
In what ways has your feminism informed your life choices?
It informs the way I think about and view the world, and how people create positive change.
In what ways do you share your feminism with others?
Whenever I see an injustice, I talk about it. When I see people behave in positive constructive ways that serve all people, I talk about it and affirm the person.
Describe your vision of a feminist world.
Where all people are accepted based on who they are as people and how they behave as people. I believe men and women are more alike than different. I see a world where empathy and kindness is valued and aggression is understood as a symptom of shame and fear.
How I Define Feminism:
All people are equal. All people are vulnerable. Our families and cultures create definitions of masculinity and femininity that hurt all of us. Feminism is about promoting equality through education and discussion of our differences and similarities. Men and women need to work together as humans sharing the same planet.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel, LCSW, is a practicing psychotherapist from NYC. She writes on emotions. Hilary’s new book (Random House, June, 2017) describes her science-based approach to emotions and shares stories to teach us how to use emotions to feel better. She is published in The New York Times, Psych Central, The Good Men Project, The Huffington Post and academic journals.
Articles by Hillary include:
The Unattainable Standard for Men