TINA B. TESSINA
At what point in your life did you consider yourself a feminist? Was it an event or a process?
When I was in high school, we were still wearing gloves and hats. Almost the day I graduated (1962) everything changed. My dad died, and I was pretty much on my own. I lived an experimental life. Experimental relationships, lots of new experiences - I tried pretty much everything. When I was in my late 20s, Gloria Steinem and her cohorts began using the word Feminist, and I resonated right away. I've been a humanist and a feminist ever since.
Who most influenced your awareness of your feminism?
Betty Friedan, Gloria Steinem, the early Hillary Clinton
In what ways has your feminism informed your life choices?
My first book, How to Be a Couple and Still Be Free, co-written with a male friend and colleague and published in 1980, was about how to open up relationship restrictions and stop playing rigid roles. That really kick-started my career.
In what ways do you share your feminism with others?
Through my private therapy practice, books, and writings, social media.
Describe your vision of a feminist world.
Women would no longer be viewed as second-rate (or worse) citizens in any nation. Our population in the US would be educated enough to eliminate domestic violence, gun violence, and religious extremism. We would then become a true model of human equality and cooperation. Our cooperative ventures with other countries, such as the United Nations, NATO and other alliances would stress equality and non-violence.
How I Define Feminism:
Feminism is an ideology and lifestyle that supports feminine equality from birth to death, at home, in the workplace, and on the global stage.
Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D. (www.tinatessina.com) is a licensed psychotherapist in S. California since 1978 with over 35 years’ experience in counseling individuals and couples and author of 14 books in 17 languages, including It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction; The Ten Smartest Decisions a Woman Can Make After Forty; Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences, The Real 13th Step and her newest, How to Be Happy Partners: Working it Out Together. She writes the “Dr. Romance” blog (drromance.typepad.com), and the “Happiness Tips from Tina” email newsletter. Dr. Tessina was the CRO (Chief Romance Officer) for Love Forever. Online, she’s known as “Dr. Romance” Dr. Tessina appears frequently on radio, TV, video and podcasts. She tweets @tinatessina.